I am so heavily burdened right now for someone I care a great deal about, and my desire to help her in any way I can is constantly on my mind.
It is so easy to fall prey to hurtful words that someone spouts at us as adults, but as a young person, this is even more challenging. Words may not physically hurt you, but they penetrate deeper than a punch the nastier they are. Why? Because you can replay them in your head over and over and they never sting any less than the first time they were spoken to you.
It is easy to shrug it off and tell kids to ignore it or stand up for themselves, but what if they can’t just ignore it? Can you ignore your alarm clock buzzing on and on every morning? How to you stand up to someone verbally assaulting you as a girl who already criticizes herself in her head all day every day? Even the girls who are talented, beautiful, unique, and happy still second guess at least half the choices they make on a daily basis. Growing up and trying to make it in this world is hard enough without someone lurking around every smile you have just waiting to remove it from your face.
What makes kids decide to be bullies? Are they just bad kids? Are they cold hearted and evil? No.
The real question is how did we, as parents, let our children become bullies? We took God out of schools, but still expected kids to abide by the Golden Rule. We no longer teach humility but we expect our kids to think of others first. What have we done to ourselves and how will an entire generation being raised without a moral compass manage to find their way?
Take a moment and ask your child if they are being bullied. Take a moment and ask your child if they are the bully.
“A new commandment I give unto you, That ye love one another; as I have loved you, that ye also love one another.” John 13:34